Category Archives: My Blog

I welcome responses, so that women can begin a dialogue here, with one another and me, on topics that matter to us.

More On Aging – Emotional Issues

Posted on October 26, 2015 by Nancy

A woman who graduated from Sarah Lawrence College with me has edited a book called “In The Fullness of Time: 32 Women On Life After 50”. Since I’ve been having a hard time accepting or understanding that I am truly … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged adjusting to my ending, curious till the last breath, finite life, giving up, how to stay engaged, life transitions, living the transition, loss of perceived beauty, missing the trajectory of those who come after, reading about them, seeing the end, staying lively no matter what, the cost of giving up | 2 Comments

Memories Of A Favorite Aunt

Posted on October 12, 2015 by Nancy

About ten years ago I flew East to visit my Aunt Helen, who had been my mother’s best friend as well as my favorite aunt. She was in her nineties, and was failing. None of her friends were alive any … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged aging, being bored, caregiver response, failing, favorite Aunt, generational change, lively personality, measuring men's body parts, mom's best friend, not allowed to work, outlets in the 50's, shared conversations, sharing stories, smiling broadly when she saw me, visiting, visiting someone older as a gift, women's changing life choices | Comments Off

Indian Lives Matter

Posted on September 28, 2015 by Nancy

This weekend I attended my local Port Townsend Film Festival. The fourth film I saw was the documentary ‘Honor Totem’. For those of you who don’t recall, or didn’t even hear the story, a man living on skid row in … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged antidote, community, finding joy in the face of injustice, grief work, healing, healing power of community, racism, Seattle shooting, totem carvers | 1 Comment

A Pleasant Surprise – Family Related

Posted on September 14, 2015 by Nancy

Labor Day Weekend we planned a trip with my older daughter and her husband in Victoria, BC. The idea was actually my daughter’s, which was a very pleasant change. I had spoken to both girls about my aging the last time I … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged alleviating anxiety, being truthful, enjoying family, enjoying what is, family vacation, sharing deeply, sharing life with grown children, surpassing expectations, test anxiety | 32 Comments

“Live” As In “Live And Let Live”!

Posted on August 24, 2015 by Nancy

An organization I belong to has a slogan “live and let live” which I say aloud sometimes, but don’t really think about very often. Or I think more about the ‘let live’ part to help understand when something is my … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged coddling myself in other ways, creating character I learn from and enjoy, doing what matters, eating chocolate, hosting dinner parties, living life as fully as possible and not forgetting to do same, quality time with my partner, reaching out to new friends, sharing tea and talking talking talking, taking pleasure in life, women friends | 15 Comments

To Family or Not To Family

Posted on August 10, 2015 by Nancy

A few weeks ago we flew down to Oakland to spend time with my partner, Wonono’s, kids and their families. We were there for a week; he has three daughters and two grandchildren. We stayed with one daughter, and visited … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged alone time, becoming more insular, body rhythms, changing needs, chaos, family visits, living blocks apart or a continent, living close to grown kids, need for quiet, too much activity, visits with grandkids | 3 Comments

July 4th and Other Misconceptions

Posted on July 6, 2015 by Nancy

When I was standing out on my deck trying to see the fireworks rising above the trees in the fort near my house, I couldn’t help but think about what our ‘independence’ meant all those years ago. Most of the … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged bestowing democracy, for what?, for whom? independence from what?, freedom?, platitudes, states rights, the whole truth, treason, truth | 7 Comments

My Mother/Myself?

Posted on June 22, 2015 by Nancy

Yesterday my partner, Wonono, graduated from Peninsula College in addiction studies as a counselor. His daughter, Neftali, took many pictures and last night he downloaded them to his computer to show us. In one shot I was standing sideways looking … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged affectionate, busybody, Caring, comforting, funny, helping or intrusive?, helps me accept the notion of death, humor, like my mother, my separate self, thoughtful, what we leave behind | 7 Comments

Fighting: Fair or Not; Loving or Not?

Posted on June 8, 2015 by Nancy

My partner and I have had maybe three fights in the nine years we have been together. The last one was on Saturday. I still don’t understand what happened or why he got so mad. I’d never seen him really … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged calming down, facing rage, fight, freezer burn, going to separate rooms, men apologizing, seeing the other side, taking time out, telling the truth later, what happened?, yelling | 16 Comments

Creative Spark

Posted on May 18, 2015 by Nancy

Last week we took the ferry to Seattle to see the Native American exhibit at the Seattle Art Museum. The museum was closed. Neither of us had checked on line! So instead we trekked over to Seattle Center to go … Continue reading →

Posted in My Blog | Tagged artistic choices, artistic ideas, choreography, creative source, Dale Chihuly, dreamed images, Facebook pictures, real or imagined, Seattle Art Museum, spectacular exhibit, spirit, why? | 4 Comments